There are many projects you can take on: house or car renovations, art, project management, event planning, or projects associated with your career or academic life. However, people, especially someone you desire to enter into a romantic relationship should not be viewed as a project, someone you errenously believe you need to fix, save or heal.

This perspective implies you believe the person is not good enough as is and somehow you can fix him/her making them better.

What makes you believe this?
How would you feel if someone implied, "I will be with you ONLY if you do W, change X, stop Y and become Z?
Why do you believe you know what's 'better' for him/her (especially since 'better' is subjective).

Healthy relationships are NOT made in the same manner as a Build-A-Bear, you cannot piece-meal a partner together, taking a little of this and removing a lot of that. Sustainable change only comes from within.

I am not interested in changing or fixing anyone, nor will I enter into a space with someone who belives I need fixing or need to change. Instead, the ideal space is when both parties are adored for who they are and both can be their authentic selves.

It is within this union that both parties can spend their time focused on and co-creating a beautiful love space. -Misha Granado, MPH, MS