Although there are many ways to temporarily relieve discomfort and pain the ONLY sustainable way to address any issue is to identify the root cause and heal it directly.
Physical:
Holding in your stomach, wearing spanx, complaining about your weight|body will not transform your body in a sustainable way. If you are unhappy with your body identify the reasons why and then make the necessary changes.
▪ If you do not like the gym, then find physical activities you enjoy and do them.
▪ If the foods you are consuming are not contributing to the body and skin you desire, then make the changes.
▪ Do you have acne skin or other skin blemishes, hiding it with makeup is not a sustainable solution, identify the source and heal it.
▪ Is it internal, an allergic reaction, lack of water, stress, and/or the chemicals|food you are consuming?
▪ Is your hair damaged, dry, breaking, and splitting, etc? Weaves, wigs, extensions, etc. is not the solution, invest in self and get to the source and heal it.
Emotional:
What is the quality of your relationships, including the relationship with self?
▪ Do you have trust issues?
▪ Are you unable to open up emotionally to receive and reciprocate love?
▪ Do you view the world and others from a pessimistic view?
▪ Are you always complaining, being negative, feel blah, etc.
▪ What is the source?
▪ When did this happen? Stop living in the dumps and do something about it.Invest in your healing, find a therapist and DO THE WORK.
You have tried hiding, self-medicating with sex, alcohol, drugs, shopping, food and/or superficial relationships, ignoring, complaining, lashing out, blaming, camouflaging and none of these approaches provided a sustainable healthy change; instead they exacerbated your wounds.
There are no short cuts. There is no overnight success. There is no magic pill you can take. There is no prince on a white horse that can save you; you must become your own super hero and begin the journey to sustainable healing which will connect you with the love that dwells (and has always dwelled within). You do not have to do it on your own, but you will have to work. © - Misha N. Granado