There are some things that you must keep to yourself REGARDLESS of your dating/marital, parent status.
YOUR SELF ESTEEM
YOUR SELF WORTH
YOUR SELF VALUE
You cannot tie ANY of these to an external entity including your significant other or children. When you tie your esteem, worth or value to any external entity you are at their mercy and that is not healthy.
It is imperative to internalize this message and wisdom, YOU are responsible for your emotional well-being therefore you must become grounded in the truth that:
YOU ARE WORTHY.
YOU ARE VALUABLE.
YOU ARE LOVABLE.
YOU ARE THE PRIZE.
YOU ARE THE WINNER.
YOU ARE THE HERO-LEAD IN YOUR STORY.
Your life journey will be filled with beginnings and endings and some of those endings may a job, relationship or there may be other things that do not begin such as being rejected by a potential love interest, not getting into an academic program, not passing an exam, etc. Your esteem, worth and value CANNOT be tied to what you do, who you are associated with or what you have. Instead your esteem, worth and value must be autonomous, its own entity.
In the romantic sector, some of you are spending TOO much time and energy analyzing why Person X does not want to be with you or love you anymore. The why does not matter only the what and the what is he/she did not choose you and that is okay. This makes it EXTREMELY easy to know he/she was not your person and by not wasting your time (or theirs) the space is still open to receive the person who WANTS to be with YOU.
Once you internalize this wisdom and shift your esteem, worth and value to where they rightfully belong (with Self) a rejection is no longer devastating because you truly know what and who is for you is for you. You no longer have the energy, time or interest to be in places/spaces where you are not celebrated. You begin to realize that YOU can determine with who and how you spend your time and energy. It is easier and more rewarding to spend time with people who accept and adore you just as you are then it is to spend all that time and energy trying to convince another.
This is what we do at Love Grows, we help our clients grow love from within and let me tell you from firsthand experience there is NOTHING more liberating than growing your own love and becoming your own reservoir. This allows you to make better choices as it pertains to your heart and well-being. This also liberates other people as well because let’s be honest, it is asking a great deal of another to be responsible for YOUR esteem, worth and value AND theirs. The question then becomes…
WHAT ARE YOU DOING IF THEY ARE responsible for YOUR EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING?