Do you know when you are operating in your head (ego) vs heart (love) space? In relationships, especially marriage there is no room for ego; ego is selfish and only concerned about self. Whenever ego feels it is being attacked, ego goes into defense mode and will stop at nothing to destroy the 'enemy.' Your spouse is NOT your enemy, and if he/she is then you two should not be married. It takes courage to live and operate from your heart space, a place of vulnerability.

It is easy to operate from ego, unfortunately in our society ego is allowed to run a muck, it is often on display in our media and is compensated quite well. Ego brings ratings, drama, has social media a buzz but ego is detrimental to your relationships (including friendships, family and business). The foundation of all ego is insecurity due to unhealed emotional wounds.

At Love Grows we speak a lot about emotional wounds and the importance of YOU doing YOUR work to heal YOUR wounds because we know if you do not you will continue to sabotage your relationships, wound others and not experience your full love potential.

Today on this marriage Monday we implore you to ask yourself the following whenever you feel angry, sad, hurt, etc in response to something your significant other said (did not say) or did (did not do)

"Do I truly believe my significant other is trying to intentionally hurt me?"

If yes, then it is time to ask yourself why you are in a relationship with someone who you believe will intentionally hurt you. If no, then better communication is needed. -Misha N Granado