Your love is not enough for sustainable behavior change within another person. It is great to be supportive, a cheerleader, send affirmations, serve as an accountability partner, pray, check-in, send positive energy, etc HOWEVER all of your efforts in the ABSENCE of said individual:
✔Making their health on ALL levels a priority
✔Believing, agreeing and wanting to change within themselves and
✔Doing THEIR work to change
...Will NOT result in sustainable change. If the external were sufficient for change without the internal buy-in and action then the following would be sufficient and yield the desired outcome:
Nutrition-fitness plan = health goals
Financial management = financial goals
Therapist’s tools = personal and/or relationship goals
None of these WITHOUT buy-in, investment and work from the individual will yield the desired outcome. This is also applicable to your spouse, significant other, family members, children, friends, etc. You cannot heal, fix or save another this is THEIR responsibility. It is NOT UNTIL the individual decides INTERNALLY that they want something different will they begin to take action. It is within their action stage where all of your external motivation, support, etc. becomes beneficial. – Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS