The Vintage Art of Creating a Sacred We Space

You.

Me.

We.

Just Us.

No gadgets.

No wi-fi.

No cyber voyeurs invited into our sacred space.

No curated shots for the gram.

No check-ins.

No witty taglines.

GPS is off.

Sun.

Sand.

Surf.

Vintage camera to capture these moments.

Moments which may never make it to cyberspace.

Instead…reside

Offline.

In beautiful frames in our home…

and intertwined within our hearts.

You.

Me.

We.

Just us.

Mind Not Heart

It’s interesting how we speak of broken hearts, when our heart is extremely resilient. It has been beating every day and moment since we were in our mother’s womb. If you are reading this, you are still here… it has not stopped, not even once.

In reference to emotional pain, perhaps it is NOT our heart that ‘breaks’ instead it is the mind that refuses to ‘break’ from the version it created because it erroneously believes it is the ONLY or best version available.

 

So it holds on when spaces end. It tortures us with the incessant questions of ‘why’…

• Why did he stop loving me?

• Why did she not return my messages?

• Why did I not get accepted into…

• Why did Person X die?

• Why does he/she not want me?

• Why can’t we conceive a child?

• Why did I miscarry?

• Why did we lose a child?

 

Love has infinite ways in which it can manifest, move and bloom in our lives. It may not be the version, person, situation you have created in your head. Do not stifle love. The mind is too rigid for love to thrive. Let go, my love. Be gentle with yourself. Mourn the loss if you need to and lovingly release it. Odo Nyera Fie Kwan (Love Never Loses it’s way home, Ashanti proverb).

You do not need to wait until the new year. Individual, couple or Mother-Daughter sessions at Love Grows is the perfect gift for you and/or loved ones. Contact lovegrows@MishaNGranado.com to schedule your sessions today.

 

Be Impeccable with your Word

At Love Grows we focus on the power of words and teaching our clients how to become impeccable and intentional with their words.

You always have a choice as to how and which words to use at any given moment. Words have the power to:

• strengthen or sabotage relationships

• build or tear down someone

• breathe life (love) or death (fear)

• encourage or discourage

• heal or wound

Especially important are the words you use to speak to yourself. You must become your strongest advocate, cheerleader, motivator, etc because you are with you 24/7.

Once you begin to use your words to strengthen, build up, breathe life, encourage and heal yourself you will experience a significant shift in the quality of your life, relationships and the frequency in which you operate. When you love self fully, you can love others better. - Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS

Gadget Confusion

One of the fastest ways to escalate (or in some cases create) an issue is to use technology to communicate instead of speaking in-person or via phone whenever our feelings are hurt, we are angry or not clear on something. I have definitely been guilty of having an ENTIRE conversation in my head (unbeknownst to the other party), jumping  (Olympic high jump to be exact) to conclusions and then sending a barrage of text messages which results in the recipient looking at their phone and thinking WTF just happened???!!!! *sigh*

It is so easy to misread tone, humor, etc. via technology, especially if:

1. The relationship is new and both parties do not know each other’s humor or communication style,
2. You are unaware of your emotional triggers and/or
3. If you misread the message.

My recommendation is whenever you ‘feel some type of way’ follow these steps as a preventative damage control technique:

Immediately STEP AWAY FROM YOUR GADGET!

Ask yourself, ‘Do I think Person A is trying to intentionally hurt me?’ If No – possible misunderstanding; if Yes – why are you interacting with someone who you believe would intentionally hurt you?

Take a few moments (or an hour) to calm down

Call the person and say, ‘Hi. Are you available to chat about the most recent message you sent? I think I may have misinterpreted it.

The issue is when you respond from a wounded place, oftentimes you are in defense mode and this is where hurtful things are said and assumptions are made. Although your emotional wounds are a part of your journey, your emotional wounds cannot lead your journey for the wounded perspective is skewed and as a result your vision is obscured.

Healthy relationship consist of a space where both parties feel emotionally safe to have open honest conversations. Each exchange and experience is an opportunity to learn more about each other and self. Be extra gentle with each other in the beginning when you are co-creating a new ‘We’ space, there is so much to learn about each other. Remember this is a new space, he is not your Ex who broke your heart and she is not the woman who betrayed you. Clean slate. Beginnings. – Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS

Love is a Lifestyle Series: Love, it Begins with You

Many people are searching for love. Expecting love from people who are emotionally unavailable. Wanting love from people whose words and/or actions reveal they do not want to give it to you. Some people are holding onto a love that no longer exists, a retrospective type of love. 

At Love Grows we are advocates of #growing love within and learning how to cultivate this love on your own. When you have a love deficit, you begin to search for it from sources that are not sustainable and/or healthy. You begin to compromise and accept unhealthy behavior which does not honor you or your heart space. Behavior and situations that lower your energy frequency, impacting all areas of your life. 

When you cultivate a love affair with self, you become intimately aware of your worth and power. You become clear on what you desire and intentional with your time, energy and body. You no longer exchange your heart, body and emotional well being for temporary attention or illusions. 

Do you know how to cultivate a love affair with self? If not, we are here to help. Contact us (info@lovegrows.us) today to schedule your sessions. - Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS
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