There are behaviors and thoughts in your life although common, familiar and even normal that are not healthy and are hindering your ability to have certain experiences and outcomes.

Defensive

For example, you may become defensive when someone offers advice or a recommendation which hinders your ability to view situations, projects, etc. from a different perspective. As a result people may conclude you are difficult to work with, egotistical and closed and no longer have a desire to collaborate with or recommend you to others, regardless of your skill, expertise and/or talent. Remain open and in the words of Miguel Ruiz, 'take what you need and leave the rest.'

Assumptions

Maybe your default is to make assumptions instead of seeking clarity. Assumptions communicate to others that you made your decison and are not interested in their perspective. There are other reasons than the ones you have assumed. Asking questions instead of making assumptions is a better way to cultivate and #nurture your relationships.

Quit

Perhaps your default is to run or quit whenever things become challenging because you fear being disappointed. This behavior hinders your growth and keeps you stagnant. Reflect on your past, has this worked for you? Have you experienced the best by utilizing this approach or have you settled? Push pass the discomfort and you will discover something greater on the other side, even if it is a life lesson.

Growth requires you to move out of your comfort zone and to shed layers and this is also applicable to your romantic relationships. You cannot experience something new by continuing to engage in thoughts, behaviors and actions that has not yielded what you desire. Let Go of everything that is not working. If you need new tools, schedule your sessions today and let’s get to work! There is an abundance of goodness awaiting you, but you may need to get out of your own way. -Misha N Granado, MPH, MS