Day 10: Sessions with Misha - Using Voice

Today is Day 10: as Misha describes various components of what makes Love Grows the ideal place to heal, restore and renew self and your relationships.

Today there are various mediums in which people can use their voice and many people are speaking; but what are they REALLY saying? What are you saying?

There is a great responsibility that comes with having a voice and this is not only for people standing on a platform or in the public eye.

The words you speak to EVERYONE you encounter is either of love or fear, including the manner in which you speak to self.

Take a few moments and think about the people you encountered thus far today. Replay the interactions in your mind. If you were on the other side and the recipient of this conversation/exchange, how would you have felt? Would you feel:

• Empowered?
• Validate?
• Heard?
• Understood?
• Demeaned?
• Disrespected?
• Ignored?
• Discarded?
• Minimized?
• Encouraged?
• Light?
• Heavy?
• Loved?

This is also applicable to your children, regardless of their age. Also, to your parents, significant other, colleagues, barista at your favorite coffee place, hostess at the restaurant, etc.

Love Grows Sessions with Misha is a safe, inviting place where you can discover the power in your words. Techniques to effectively use your voice to establish healthy boundaries, rectify a wrong, provide comfort, encouragement, liberate, inspire, motivate, validate, educate, contribute to co-creating safe, sacred spaces, share your story and express love. Every day in an opportunity to grow, heal and become better.

Life is too precious to continue to allow your unhealed emotional wounds to comprise and hinder the quality of your life and relationships.

Life is about relationships and the relationship you have with self, determines and influences ALL of the relationships in your life. Make your emotional health and relationships a priority. When you are ready, we are here and accepting new clients. Contact LoveGrows@MishaNGranado.com to complete a brief questionnaire and to obtain more information about our individual, couple and/or mother-daughter sessions. We also offer after hour appointments (last appointment at 8pm). Additionally, weekend sessions are available.

Day 4: Sessions with Misha - Healthy New Norms

There are many behaviors, thoughts, communication styles, coping & conflict resolving strategies that are ‘normal’ but quite unhealthy. Take a moment to think about the ‘norms’ in your family are they healthy?

• Which ones have you implemented into your life and relationships?
• Are they working for you?
• Are they cultivating or constricting the quality of your relationships and life?
• Are they moving you closer or further from the life you desire?
• Are they harming or healing?

Love Grows Sessions with Misha is a place where we will gently identify the things working and no longer working for you.

I know your parents did they best they could with the tools they had; there is no blame there. However, as an adult you have the autonomy to choose which practices (if any) you will continue to practice and those that you will discard.   

If You Read 1 Article About Judgments Read This One

Being judgmental is perhaps the number one reason why people remove others from their inner circle of trust.

 

There are infinite realities and perspectives and everyone is on their own journey. Life is “on the job training” where we are all learning, implementing, revising, re-implementing, designing, implementing, re-designing, learning, gaining wisdom, revisiting, learning, teaching, exploring, discovering, repeating, etc. Although we have all seen many Thursdays and the month of March this is the FIRST and LAST time each of us will experience March 1, 2018. It is new.

Your beliefs, perspective, rules, norms, boundaries, process, fears, etc are NOT universal truths which everyone is suppose to adhere. It is disrespectful, unkind and not of love to impose and expect others to adhere to and apply your version to their life. To have these expectations and to sit in judgment is quite egotistical.

• Who are you to judge another?

• Who are you to 'freeze' someone at a specific time point and refuse to allow them to evolve?

• What is the purpose of gossiping about another, what are YOU REALLY attempting to avoid within yourself?

• Sometimes when it seems as if someone has ‘disappeared’ from your life it is because they became tired of your judgment, unsolicited advice, the threat of damnation, you pointing out everything YOU perceive to be wrong with their life, choices, behavior, etc.
• Perhaps they grew tired of conversations where you were the judge, jury, bailiff, prosecutor and the world was the defendant.
• Maybe they were exhausted with having to wear a mask around you, no longer free to be their full authentic self because they knew you would go into your ‘fix my life’ mode where you had all the answers and they had nothing.

 

They did not disappear. They removed you from their inner circle of trust.

The truth is the ones that are the most judgmental are the ones who either have significant blind spots to the areas where they can grow or have significant healing to do.

No one is an expert at life because life is constantly evolving. However, there are those who are more aligned with the ebb and flow of life and practice non-resistance. When you respect another person’s journey you no longer try to convince, convert or condemn (3 Cs) them or sit in judgement. Instead you meet them exactly where they are and provide a safe, non-judgmental space where all parties can be vulnerable, transparent and emotionally safe to explore, discover, release and evolve. You are able to do this because you are honest and aware of YOUR FULL truth, not only the socially acceptable parts.

Are you judgmental? Are you ready to discover your emotional wounds that are contributing to this behavior? We are now accepting new clients. Contact LoveGrows@MishaNGranado.com for more information and to schedule your appointments. Love Grows and is in Full Bloom! – Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS

Love is a Lifestyle: Love is a Teacher

To love is the ultimate life lesson and love employs infinite teachers to help us master this life long course.  Everyone, absolutely everyone who steps on our path, regardless of the time duration, serves as both a teacher and student and we take turns fulfilling these roles in each other's lives. 

Our master teachers are often the people and situations that are the most challenging for us and usually they appear when it is time to emotionally and energetically grow.

They teach us more about self, allowing us discover a new depth, heal a wound, gain a new perspective, establish a new boundary, become clear, master patience, forgiveness and/or using our voice effectively. Master teachers often reveal the areas where we have been unkind to self.  

There are other teachers as well, ones who: demonstrate various healthy behaviors (patience, forgiveness, accountability, how to let go, communication, kindness, etc.), provide support, different perspectives, encouragement and remind us that love has not forgotten us. 

Are you able to identify when you are the teacher or student? Can you identify which role the various people in your life occupy? Are you passing or failing the lessons? HInt, if you continue to repeat a course, you have not mastered it.  

Do you need tutoring in any of these courses? If so, we are here and are now accepting new clients. Contact us today, info@lovegrows.us to schedule your sessions today. - Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS