A healthy romantic relationship operates as a team and from a place of collaboration as opposed to competition. This couple is genuinely concerned with each other’s health on ALL levels and makes health, especially emotional health, a priority.
“I am sure your wife thinks you are a prize. However, you are doing a very poor job representing your coveted ‘WE’ space. Would you have approached me, initiated this conversation, asked for my number or extended the lunch invite if your wife were here? Sir, you represent her everywhere you go. You are to represent your marriage, every moment in every situation. Do better. Be better. Be the prize she thinks you are.” And with that I turned around and walked away.
You no longer want to battle, fight or hurt another because you are very protective and selective in how you expend your energy. Egos like to battle, love never does. Become love.
Emotional cancer is so detrimental and toxic because there are infinite ways others unknowingly ‘feed’ the cancer. For example, if you are a woman who did not grow up with her biological father, you may have developed an emotional wound of ‘I Am Not Good Enough’ cancer. Unbeknownst to you, somewhere along the way during your childhood you made the association that if you were good enough your dad would have remained and played an active role in your life.
Once you have experienced this love or know with all of your being it exists, you cannot settle for anything less; your spirit will not allow it. Fear cannot convince you. The panic of your loved ones cannot coerce you.