Day 6: Sessions with Misha - Vulnerable

There have been many advancements in our world. We can:

• order items and receive them next day
• video chat with people across the globe in different time zones
• have groceries delivered to our house
• surgically change our appearance and sex
• wake up in one time zone/country and fall asleep in a different one
• connect with people across the globe via social media platforms
• express ourselves, by ourselves via podcasts, YT and other platforms
• create businesses online

But can we be vulnerable and transparent?

• Do you have a place where you can be your unapologetic authentic self?
• A place where no one will judge you or try to utilize the 3 Cs (convince you to do, say, feel X | convert you to Y | convince you of Z)?
• A place where you are free to FEEL whatever you are feeling without someone trying to label it as something more ‘socially acceptable’ or try to fix it or you?
• A place where you can find, learn and/or use your voice?

Love Grows Sessions with Misha is such a place. A space that was built and only operates with transparency and vulnerability.

A place where you do not have to pretend to be anything. A place that can handle your truth, fears, doubts, dreams, hopes and love. A place where you can remove your mask and BREATHE. A safe space where you can practice living without the mask and when you are ready, return to the world revealing your authentic, beautiful, strong, light-filled, healthy self.

Day 5: Sessions with Misha - Authentic

There are many messages, both overt and covert, which imply we are not good enough. Messages pushing products to make us more or less of something. “When, Then” messages…”When you achieve X, then you will be Y.”

• Where are the spaces celebrating the present version of us?
• Where are the spaces recognizing that life is on the job training, not a simulation, where we have the luxury of ‘practice runs?’
• Where are the spaces filled with grace, patience, encouragement, celebration, high fives, support and to serve as a witness to the various spaces where we have grown and where we are growing.

Love Grows Sessions with Misha serves as one of these sacred places where your authentic self is welcomed

and expected because I know this ‘present’ version of you is the ONLY one who has ALL of the power to make changes, heal, plan, celebrate, honor, rest, renew, nurture and love ALL parts of you and your journey. Your ‘past’ and ‘future’ selves do not have this gift or power.

Day 4: Sessions with Misha - Healthy New Norms

There are many behaviors, thoughts, communication styles, coping & conflict resolving strategies that are ‘normal’ but quite unhealthy. Take a moment to think about the ‘norms’ in your family are they healthy?

• Which ones have you implemented into your life and relationships?
• Are they working for you?
• Are they cultivating or constricting the quality of your relationships and life?
• Are they moving you closer or further from the life you desire?
• Are they harming or healing?

Love Grows Sessions with Misha is a place where we will gently identify the things working and no longer working for you.

I know your parents did they best they could with the tools they had; there is no blame there. However, as an adult you have the autonomy to choose which practices (if any) you will continue to practice and those that you will discard.   

Day 3: Sessions with Misha - All of your emotions

For many people there is quite a bit of stigma associated with therapy. In attempts to provide a different perspective on therapy, we are beginning a new series, “What Are Sessions like with Misha of Love Grows”  that will run for the next few weeks.

Day 3 of 19:

There are various messages that encourage you to get over it:

• Suck it up buttercup!
• If it doesn’t break up, it makes you stronger.
• If the door doesn’t open, it’s not your door.
• You cannot change your past, so get over it!
• If she/he doesn’t want you keep it moving.
• What’s meant to be, will be…

While these are true, it does not negate the emotional hurt you feel in the moment. Someone quoting these statements or suggesting that you emotionally ‘pull yourself up by your bootstraps’ does NOT expedite your healing. Suggesting that someone is weak because they actually feel and articulate their pain does not help the situation. Questioning a man’s sexuality or masculinity because he expresses his emotions does not create a safe space for him and builds a wall between him and you.  This is applicable to both men and women, girls and boys. We are human and even though boys/men (generally speaking) have not been given the safe space to explore and express the ENTIRE gamut of emotions, they also feel and need the space to express.

In some communities boys learn quite early that they have 2 emotions (happiness and anger) they can express WITHOUT their sexuality being questioned.

This is perpetrated by both men and women in the child’s life. For example, a 2 year old girl and boy child tumble down, the girl is often coddled, hugged, kissed and allowed to express her emotions. Whereas, the boy child is told, ‘Get up! Nothing is wrong with you! I’ll give you something to cry about!’ This is where the stuffing begins. This does not mean boys do not FEEL all of the emotions as girls, it just means they were not given years to practice.

Fast forward to adulthood, you have men who do not know how to express their feelings in a healthy way. They cannot articulate to their significant other what they are REALLY feeling, because they do not have the words or many not even know how to quantify the emotion because all they have even been safe to express and articulate is anger and happiness. He may know what he is feeling definitely isn’t happiness. He doesn’t think it is anger. So what is it?

Sessions with me are a safe space where both women and men are free to express their feelings.

The Love Grows sessions are a judgment free zone. Instead, it is a place where emotions are celebrated because I know the more you feel the closer you are to healing…and healing is the ultimate goal of our sessions. Life is meant to be experienced through ALL of your senses and domains. Are you living a life where you are allowing your heart to fully expand? Sessions with Misha will teach you how to expand your heart and heal your mind.

Day 2: Sessions with Misha - Place to Heal Emotional Wounds

For many people there is quite a bit of stigma associated with therapy. In attempts to provide a different perspective on therapy, we are beginning a new series, “What Are Sessions like with Misha of Love Grows”  that will run for the next few weeks.

Day 2 of 19:

Your loved ones mean well when they give their advice; but there is often an inherent bias based on the relationship. As a result, unfortunately, it becomes difficult for these loved ones to be objective. Sometimes their perspective is skewed by their unhealed emotion wounds, beliefs, opinion/feelings about others involved in your situation, fear or perspective. Sometimes, your loved ones have unhealthy coping strategies within their own life which also results in providing unhealthy and ineffective advice to you. Additionally, some of your loved ones are NOT confidential and intentionally or unintentionally exacerbate your emotional wounds by sharing your personal, vulnerable information with others.

The same way you outsource to experts in other areas of your life: pap smears, car repairs, house repairs, dental, beautician/barber, nail techs, yard maintenance, etc. the same is applicable for your emotional wellness, well-being and healing. You are not going to your loved ones for a pap smear, nor are you trying to YouTube the “Quick 5 Steps to DIY Paps” *sigh* So why are you not as meticulous with your emotional health and healing? Why are you not willing to invest with an expert in this area of your life?

Sessions with me are an emotionally safe, objective, non-judgmental, confidential space where you are encouraged to be vulnerable and transparent.

The ultimate goal is your emotional wellness. There is no blame. I am patient and our sessions will move at your pace and comfort level; but I will encourage you to stretch a bit. I understand that healing is not a linear process, but instead it’s a journey where there may be moments where you feel as if you regressed or are stagnant. This is where I come in, to serve as your witness and reminder of where and how you are progressing. My sessions are gentle but effective.