It is easy to be physically attracted to someone and to have enjoyable sex with this individual. However, amazing sex is the result of cultivating an intimate space with someone before becoming physical. Intimacy is established when you cultivate a relationship with someone grounded in trust, honesty, respect, and love; creating an emotional space where both individuals feel safe to be vulnerable with each other and be their authentic selves. A space where you are heard and you listen with your heart to hear what is and is not being said by the other individual. When both parties have established a healthy emotional intimate space their physical/sexual space will benefit exponentially as a result.

For our singles:

This holiday season gift yourself the gift of ‘patience’ and ‘friendship.’ If you have recently met someone (or when you meet someone) decide to approach this individual differently. Instead of introducing the physical take time to cultivate the mental and emotional by establishing a friendship. You have tried it the other way (giving your body before establishing a mental/emotional connection) and it did not yield the results you wanted. If you are only interested in operating at the physical level then carry on with your same behavior; however, if you desire something different, it is time to do something different.

For our couples:

This holiday season, give your relationship the gift of ‘quality.’ Break the routine and status quo by investing in all areas of your relationship. Remember how it was in the beginning when you first met each other and you were so enamored with each other? Remember the excitement you felt at the thought of seeing him/her and the opportunity to spend time with each other? What do you need to bring those feelings back? Take the time to identify what is needed to enhance your relationship and do it.

It is a privilege to receive love and for someone to accept your love; honor it this holiday season and everyday thereafter. © - Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS

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