It is the last day of March and the first day of our new series, 8 Love Grows Tips to Create a Healthy ‘Me Space’ After a Relationship Ends. Life is about relationships and it is possible some of the relationships in your life will end for various reasons. Perhaps a romantic relationship ends because of a break-up, divorce or even death. Maybe a parenting relationship ends where you are the parent (loss of a child) or the child (loss of a parent). Perchance a professional relationship ends (downsizing) or a friendship.
Loss is challenging for many reasons and it is important to give yourself the time and resources needed to heal from this loss. Whenever a relationship ends, you must create something new and often this includes discovering who you are now without this relationship. Who are you if you are no longer Mrs. X, associated with Y company or a parent? What will you do with your time, heart and life?
Tip #1: Take Time to Heal Your Heart
There is no time limit on healing your heart, but healing requires action. A therapist is a great resource-tool to help you navigate this process. You do not have all the answers nor are you expected to. There is no shame in seeking therapy, instead it is one of the best investments you can make. If something happens to your car, you do not spend time on YouTube trying to fix it yourself (prolonging the process and possibly making the problem worse); instead, you seek the expertise of a professional in the field. This is the best use of your resources (time, energy, money) and the fastest, safest and sustainable way to return to the road.
Your loved ones mean well, but do they have the tools, expertise, skills or knowledge YOU need at this time in your life? Their coping strategies may not work for you, be sustainable, healthy or appropriate. There is definitely a role for your loved ones during this process, but a therapist who specializes in what you need is perhaps the best choice. Do not delay your healing. Your heart, quality of life and future all depend on it. Of course, we are available to help you with Tip #1 and if you are ready contact us today. – Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS