Grounded

A man who is grounded and has a clear vision for his life knows the qualities and characteristics in a woman that will compliment him and the same is true for a woman.

These individuals have the ability to see each other in totality and

...are keenly aware that the whole is always greater than any ‘piece.’

Sure, another individual may have more or less of something than your significant other but their pieces cannot compare or replace the whole, not if you are clear on your vision and purpose.

In order to recognize your love, you must be clear and grounded in the grandness of you. We can experience happiness with many people, and even a great life; but your best life, now that is something different. © - Misha N. Granado

When Reconnection is Possible

As long as we open, life will present various ways to reconnect with different aspects of ourselves in the form of love, friendships, relationships, hobbies, interests, etc.

Emotional wounds can sever relationships , however IF both parties are willing and courageous to be honest, accountable, do their individual work to heal their muck, own their role in the quality and outcome of the relationship and be vulnerable; a reconnection is possible.

As for me, I am grateful to The Arts...

The Art of Forgiveness
The Art of Patience
The Art of Compassion
The Art of Love

For within my life, I have been the recipient of each and practice them as well. I intimately know the magical way love moves and I am grateful.

Is there a relationship in need of repair in your life? Is your muck serving as a barrier, hindering love to move? Life is a beautiful gift, but one with an unknown expiration date for each of us.

Are you REALLY okay with the quality of the relationships in your life? If the 'gift of life' were to expire for Person X, would you be at peace with where you two stand today? If so, good for you 💖. If not, do not take time for granted. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. This is why removing residual wounds are imperative, it frees up space for love. Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS

The Benefits of Emotional Healing

Emotional Maturity and healing does NOT mean you will always feel happy and full of joy 100% of the time. Instead, it means:

1. You will have new tools and perspectives to navigate your adventure which is life
2. Your emotional wisdom becomes deeper because you know EVERYONE, absolutely everyone is dealing, healing and/or growing from something (or needs to).
3. You become gentle with others especially yourself.
4. You know age, status, educational degrees, bank accounts, marital/child status does NOT correlate with emotional maturity and/or healing; instead it is something that can happen anytime during one’s life and space.
5. You know your parents are not exempt from #4.
6. You know your spouse is not exempt from #4.
7. You know your children are not exempt from #4.
8. You intimately know the healing power and liberation of forgiveness.
9. You learn and continue to perfect the Art of #Grace.

It’s a journey.

Everyone is on one, although it looks different.

Keeping people ‘emotionally incarcerated’ in your mind requires you to stand guard in that emotional prison.

• Love heals.
• Love Grows.
• May you allow love to bloom fully in your heart and mind.

We are accepting new clients (and previous ones as well). You do not need to wait until the new year to begin. Contact LoveGrows@MishaNGranado.com to schedule your sessions. You are worth the investment. – Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS

Misha's Minute: Dating Differently

Love Grows Dating Tip - The 'butterflies in the tummy' feeling is super sweet but NOT enough to ensure a healthy relationship. I encourage you to turn off the television, disconnect from your gadgets and begin observing and having real #conversations with the person you are dating.

💥Observe💥

• What are the norms, communication style, power dynamics, etc of their family?
• How do the members of their family use their voice (kind, respectful, combative, accusatory, disrespectful, rude, loving, etc)?
• Does your S/O have a voice in their family and if so, how do they  use it?
• What are the boundaries and are you comfortable with them?

If they have not established healthy boundaries between self and their family, this individual is not capable of:

1. supporting the boundaries you are trying to establish with their family nor are they able
2. to provide a unified front as it pertains to their family.

This results in the outside person (you) having to 'defend' yourself with their family, causing resentment, anger, and tension in your romantic space.

Normal does not equate healthy. Begin having real conversations today. - Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS 

Misha's Minute: Pace | Space & Emotional Health

Healthy WE spaces require  both individuals have a healthy ME space. Oftentimes people have very specific timelines and benchmarks for romantic relationships. HOWEVER, healthy, successful relationships require a few key elements:

• SPACE

• PACE

• EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING

💥Space:

Are we in the same space, meaning do we want the same thing with EACH other? An example of NOT being in the same space is... one person desires a monogamous, committed relationship moving towards marriage and babies and the other desires a casual dating space.

💥Pace:

Do you desire the same things but on drastically different timelines? Person A: Babies within a year | Person B: Babies in 5 years.

💥Emotional Health:

Have both parties done their work? Have you healed your emotional wounds? Made your emotional health and well being a priority? Are you both connoisseurs of self, meaning you are responsible & accountable for your behavior, energy, you practice the art of communication, you know what expands and constricts your highest good? You aren't looking for a partner to heal, save or fix you nor for someone to complete you because you KNOW two healthy whole people make a healthy relationship.

There are other factors to consider but these are a few major ones. For example if Person A is a marathon runner and Person B is just beginning their fitness journey, they are not in the same SPACE or moving at the same PACE. Frustration, anger, resentment, feeling pressure or not 'good enough' results if:

🚫Person A tries to (1) fast tract Person B, (2) stops or slows down waiting for B to catch up, which results in A not operating at optimal level/growing.

🚫Person B  did not choose to become a marathon runner, doesn't have the skills, stamina, etc to keep up. Resulting in feeling pressure to meet Person's A expectations.

Pace, space and emotional health a few of the things we address at Love Grows. Schedule a session today. - Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS