More Than One Way

There is more than one path to fulfill the desires of your heart and your life purpose. Therefore when one door (i.e. relationship, job, mentor, opportunity) does not open or closes later down the path, do not fret; instead shift your perspective and begin to:

View each route as an adventure

Become curious and creative to discover how to transform this unexpected outcome into a springboard to catapult you into your next adventure.

This is one of the most beautiful aspects about love and life, no one entity is responsible or the sole source of the resources you need for your journey. Therefore, one person’s ‘No’ is not a dead end but instead a detour and your adventure continues. – Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS 

Courage is Required

Courage is required to:

• Wait
• Let Go
• Forgive
• Stand still
• Walk away
• Trust yourself
• Trust the process
• Heal (@LoveGrows_Misha)
• Believe in self, dreams and visions
• Trust God (visit @rudyrasmus for lessons on trust)
• Dream (visit @jotinab to learn how to catch dreams)
• Shift (visit @theshiftstarter for shifting tools and tips)
• Tell your story (visit @seneca.dunmore for The Art and Power of Storytelling)

Each experience provides an opportunity to be introduced to and discover deeper levels of self, to gain new tools, to teach, to learn and to grow. We are all teachers and students and when we honor this process we elevate each other and increase the universal energy a bit.

Perspective is everything and you can choose how to view self, others, life, experiences and love. You can choose to view an ending as the end of your world or merely the end of an experience and to use this time to thank each other for serving as each other’s traveling companion and lovingly let each other go. In this space you can re-adjust, re-evaluate and choose to leave anything you no longer need as you continue along your journey.

Helping you gain a new perspective is another way we grow love. Allow us to travel with you. – Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS

Daddy Daughter Day

I was not raised by my biological father and I did not realize the impact his absence had on my life, choices, behavior, men I dated, the way I treated men, thoughts, beliefs, etc until I began doing the work to heal my emotional wounds. From a healed heart and perspective, I was able to forgive him, hold no ill feelings towards him and trust the process (God-love). I reached out to him a few times throughout the years to no avail, however when he is ready I welcome the opportunity to chat.

Unfortunately, many of us perceive our parents to be superhuman and hold them to a higher standard than we hold ourselves. We forget or do not realize although they are our parents, they still have their own emotional wounds, dreams deferred, experienced heartache, feel frustrated, scared, disappointed, may not know what to do, fear being rejected by us, etc. When we realize this and view them from this perspective, our relationship evolves to the next level: emotionally mature adult child: parent.

Although my biological dad did not raise me, love gifted a ‘bonus dad’ to me, the man I consider my dad, the man who raised me and it was through him I also received bonus siblings, nieces, nephews, aunts, cousins, etc. Our relationship continues to evolve and grow which is directly correlated with our individual growth and expansion and both of us co-nurturing this relationship. One of the ways we do this is monthly Daddy Daughter Days and today was our day. Usually we spend a few hours at the gun range and then have lunch. Today due to our schedules we only had lunch, but it was filled with plenty of laughter, family stories I had never heard and history lesson on the family dynamics, etc.

We cannot change the past, we cannot make anyone do anything, including our parents. But we can choose to let go, heal, change perspectives and make our well being and wellness our responsibility and priority. Be gentle with self and others (including parents). Keep your heart open, it is stronger and much deeper than you realize.

Love has infinite ways to intertwine in our lives and may present in unexpected packages: bonus parents|siblings|family, new love after a loss (death, divorce), friends, etc. If you need help making room in your heart, we are here. Schedule your session today. – Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS 

The Intricate Root System of Emotional Wounds

Emotional wounds are similar to an intricate root system tangled together internally with various branches extending externally. Oftentimes people have varying degrees of unawareness. Some are oblivious to the emotional wound and as a result spend a great amount of energy blaming, fighting, arguing, judging, causing/engaging in chaos and/or reacting to various stimuli without knowing the reason. They are only aware of their pain, anger, rage, sadness, etc. and blame the external entity, not realizing the external has touched something internal.

Others may be aware of the emotional wound, but erroneously believe the ‘branch’ is an isolated issue, therefore they believe if they remove (or avoid) the branch (i.e. person, avoid a particular group, try to control every aspect of their life, do not trust anyone, etc.) the heartache/pain will no longer exist. Unfortunately, they are unaware of the intricate root system and that the branch is merely a symptom and the root is wrapped around other emotional areas.

If you are unaware of your emotional wounds and the root causes you do not know your triggers and you cannot adequately convey these triggers to others. Nor are you able to sustainably heal the wound. As a result, people unintentionally hurt each other which results in exacerbating wounds, creating unhealthy relationship dynamics, compromises emotional safety and trust and in some cases destroys the the relationship.

When emotional wounds are involved, the mere passing of time is not a sufficient or sustainable method for healing. Your mental, emotional, physical, spiritual bodies are connected, therefore the intricate root system of the emotional wounds permeate every sector of your being whether you are conscious of it or not.

Love Grows is not a quick fix. We do not provide band-aide approaches to your healing. Identifying and removing the roots require you to make an investment. Root systems are very intricate and in many cases cannot be merely plucked. Love Grows is an investment in YOU and YOUR emotional health is worth the investment. It is a new month, are you ready to try something different? We are now accepting new clients and would be honored to accompany you on this part of your journey. – Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS