I am not interested in changing or fixing anyone, nor will I enter into a space with someone who belives I need fixing or need to change. Instead, the ideal space is when both parties are adored for who they are and both can be their authentic selves.
A healthy romantic relationship operates as a team and from a place of collaboration as opposed to competition. This couple is genuinely concerned with each other’s health on ALL levels and makes health, especially emotional health, a priority.
To try to force a relationship with someone whose words, behaviors and or actions convey they no longer want to be with you, is one of the worst and most painful forms of self sabotage.
Do you and your love need a boost to reconnect as lovers? Observe each other in their element and rediscover why you two selected each other and decided to grow love together.
“I am sure your wife thinks you are a prize. However, you are doing a very poor job representing your coveted ‘WE’ space. Would you have approached me, initiated this conversation, asked for my number or extended the lunch invite if your wife were here? Sir, you represent her everywhere you go. You are to represent your marriage, every moment in every situation. Do better. Be better. Be the prize she thinks you are.” And with that I turned around and walked away.