When Disappointment Deflates Excitement

It’s okay and healthy to feel excited about someone or something; to allow your heart to fully expand at the possibility of an experience your heart desires to have. It’s okay to share this excitement with your loved ones.

It’s okay to be vulnerable, transparent, believe, trust and be open to love.

It’s okay to want to have a beautiful, passionate, fun, exciting, healthy, life-giving, emotionally mature, safe love experience absent of the 3Cs, filled with the 3Rs.  

It’s also okay to feel disappointed when it does not come to fruition or dissolves before your heart is ready to part.

Sometimes we may feel an element of shame and/or embarrassment when a relationship either does not manifest or ends. We may dread having to face those very same people we shared our excitement with and their desire to know why.

Disappointment may result in feeling foolish for being excited, hopeful and we may erroneously believe moving forward we should temper our excitement or not to allow ourselves to get excited at all. We may conclude that it is not emotionally safe to dream, hope, trust and believe the vision and promise God placed in our hearts and spirit. We may incorrectly believe we are not good enough or worthy because if we were, X would have happened or Y would not have ended.

 

It’s okay to allow yourself to FULLY feel the disappointment. Actually, it is the healthiest way to process. Allow it to flow through you. Do not stuff it.

1. Go outside without any gadgets.
2. Place your bare toes in the grass.
3. Close your eyes.
4. Wiggle your toes.
5. Open your arms.
6. Inhale deeply.
7. Exhale slowly.

You are alive. You are here. You are a gift.

 

Do you realize how many stars had to align to create you?

Can you comprehend the miracle that is you?

Can you grasp that ‘THIS’ disappointment/setback is merely ‘self-correcting’ re-calibrating to realign you with your purpose.

There is ABSOLUTELY nothing out of the reach of God/Love…NOTHING! There is NOTHING anyone can do and there is NO ONE on this plane (or any other) that serves as a ‘gate keeper’ to the love that has been allocated to you.

NOTHING.

NO ONE.

Listen to me love. Can you hear me dear heart? Yes, you…the one who feels as it there is no way you can get pass ‘THIS.’ You are in a body, on a round sphere suspended in the galaxy near the sun and darkness simultaneously. Believe me…’THIS’ cannot compare to the infinite miracles that is life, love and God.

It’s okay to feel disappointed.

It is better to release, trust and KNOW that who and what is for you is for you and EVERYTHING and EVERYONE that isn’t will make their exit in some of the most creative ways. Do not resist. Allow.

It Takes More Than Time

There is a saying, ‘Time Heals’ but at Love Grows we do not subscribe to the mere passing of time as the elixir to healing emotional wounds.

Time + Concerted Action is required to heal emotionally as it is to heal physically and financially.

For example, if you sustain a physical injury, the passing of time alone will not heal the wound instead time + no action will result in: weak muscles, loss of full range of motion with each day you are not involved in some sort of rehabilitation. The passing of days without changing your spending and saving habits will not move you closer to becoming debt free.
 

The same is applicable to your emotional health. Time + Therapy is the most sustainable way to heal your emotional wounds.

Time alone does not heal your heart, there are very specific tools needed for this level of "heart work". Therapist are similar to any other professional. If you have an issue with:

⚠ Your car, you take it to the mechanic or dealership

⚠ Health - the appropriate health care provider

⚠ Finances - consult with an adviser

⚠ Hair – hairstylist, barber

⚠ Dietary – nutritionist

⚠ Fitness – trainer

There is no shame or stigma associated with seeking help from any of these professionals so why is emotional health different? Life is on the job training, where you are learning, implementing, revising and implementing again all in real time. Unfortunately, there is no trial run or a simulation version where you can practice and perfect everything before implementing. There are unexpected and emotionally painful experiences (i.e. death, divorce, miscarriages, conception challenges, job loss, abuse, etc) you may experience on your journey and despite what others may believe, you do not have to heal on your own. Seeking therapy does not bring into question your masculinity, strength or capacity, instead; to the contrary it proves the following:

❤ You have made your emotional health and healing a priority

❤ You know your well-being is worth the investment

❤ You are serious about healing and are taking the fastest route by partnering with a professional who has the tools & expertise

Do not allow archaic thinking to keep you from healing your emotional wounds. Seek a therapist. Make the investment. Do the work. Improve the quality of your life. We are here. Contact us today. – Misha N. Granado, MPH, MS

Misha's Minute: The Purpose of Relationships

Relationships are opportunities to learn more about yourself.

• Are you a connoisseur of you?
• Do you know your emotional triggers?
• Do you know the source of your emotional wounds?
• Have you healed your emotional wounds?
• Do you know what you need when you are angry, sad, frustrated, scared, in a panic, etc?
• Do you know your communication style?
• Do you know which qualities and characteristics EXPAND and CONSTRICT your #happiness and highest good?
• Do you know your love language and the love language which compliments you best?

Do you know the role YOU played in ALL of your previous relationships which ended (accountability, responsibility)? It is NOT always the other person and IF it is it is still YOU because YOU continue to choose the same type of people.

If you do not know the answers to all of these questions (and so many more) then you have not learned from your relationships nor are you fully aware of self. .

ABSOLUTELY EVERY relationship (romantic, business, familial, platonic, friendships, etc) are opportunities to learn more about self. We are ALL teachers and students in these relationships. You are the common denominator is ALL of your relationships.

This is what we do at Love Grows we help you understand your patterns, identify your emotional wounds, help you heal them and to become more aware of who you are which allows you to show up differently, healthy and fully for yourself, others, life and love. We are accepting new clients. Contact us today (info@lovegrows.us).  Misha N Granado, MPH, MS